One weird thought I wanted to share (though I believe this whole blogging thing is as weird as anything could be)......
This is something I observed while I was doing my favorite thing, "doing nothing" in a parking lot.....I watched a guy, who was jogging on the side of the road, accidentally bang into someone while running....the other thing I noted was how the guy who had hit into the other guy started passing a smile so as to ease the steam off the situation.........it made me thinking.....that this is something very unusually usual, which we witness almost every now and then....to find somebody smiling after he has done something wrong, not exactly a mistake but certainly something which could irritate others........
we smile and, in a way, offer our apologies.......I trust that this particular behavior of ours has a certain relation to our genes and not only conditioning......this logic can be had from the behavior of a kid who is rampant and takes pleasure in throwing the stuff around.....
for observing this particular thing I chose my 2 years old nephew who is (in)famous for his anarchic traits.....it didn't take me long before he was back in full swing and threw my sister's mobile off the bed....he being utterly innocent (at least as it seems to me), looked towards didi and offered an unconditional smile (read apology).....It certainly had me thinking that this act of his is not driven by any "conditioning" but is rather passed-on from one generation to the other and is thus inculcated into our perpetually evolving genes.......
though the sample size that I chose for conducting this "uncanny" experiment of mine was extremely small, yet I believe that the results which I observed are not any windfall outcomes but are a validation of a phenomenon much wider than the realms of our thoughts and imaginations.........
very intersting observations....though i must say both the thngs are becoming rare....smiling people at random and also quick and self offered apologies!......
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you that smile comes off automatically but only when you are on the wrong side. Have you ever saw some one smiling when s/he thinks s/he is right or was not at fault or didn't do anything wrong. So I believe its not about the genes but the external factors that have been developed for last few years. Every one is feeling insecure, no one wants to get into any kind of trouble that can shorten their time, which is already very short these days. Take example of your nephew, he smiled because he knows he has committed some thing wrong and does not want to get into more trouble he fired his brahamaastra straightway. Did your didi smile? I think we know the answer. So to some extent, the conditioning also comes into play. It grooms you not only when you are wrong but to offer a smile even when you know you are right.
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